“Finding Emotional Freedom”

by Sydney L. Murray

Robert TiceToday in the United States there are so many demands on each one of us in a modern society. From minute to minute communication, a faltering economy, and the pressures of our fast-paced society, many people begin to suffer ill effects of their lifestyle or past pain, both buried and known.
Robert Tice has helped many clients with addictive behavior, but with a background in finance he has recently been helping people who are experiencing financial desperation. Recently I spoke with Tice about his healing techniques juxtaposed against our modern world.

Vision Magazine (VM): How important are your techniques in dealing with everyday living?

Robert Tice (RT): I have had a lot of people who have been experts in the field of law and finance and once this recession hit, [it] dramatically changed the way they lived their life. They have sought help from me in terms of trying to figure out what their life purpose is and how what they have been doing fits in (or doesn’t) with how they intend to live their life. Many choose a more simple life without the stress of trying to be better or bigger than everyone around them.

VM: What are some of the tools you use to help people?

RT: I work with both Emotional Freedom Technique, (EFT) which is a combination of hypnotherapy, acupuncture, and massage, and I also have finance with an MBA background. My counseling deals with both finances as well as addictive behavior that lead people on a path that is not where they want to go.
I am a life coach and addiction specialist. Lately I have been dealing with people who are considering a lawyer, walking out on their house, filing bankruptcy, or changing their career. So we look at all their perspectives as far as where they want to go. I think any kind of counselor, whether they are a therapist or a hypnotherapist, can give people an outside perspective that they often can’t see themselves.

VM: What is Emotional Freedom Technique?

RT: It is, in a way, what Louise Hay wrote years ago about how to identify what part of the body is holding what type of emotion. A lot of time in massage, which I also do, you will have somebody who has a huge stressor in a certain body part. That led me to Emotional Freedom Technique training, because it’s a way to really hone in on a certain body part and let them identify it. I think the problem with hypnotherapy alone is that we have a little kid inside (of us) that doesn’t want to do anything but what you tell it not to do. Emotional Freedom Technique allows them to see that where they are holding trauma. I have had people release huge amounts of grief. It is really important that the entire body is looked at. Unfortunately we are in this age where we don’t have time for an hour-long massage; we just have our shoulders or neck done. So the entire body has to be looked at, spiritually, emotionally and mentally.

So often we have people who have gone to a therapist for years about one issue and they have had a neck massage, and they never put together that the stress is always going to be in their neck, because there is some kind of trauma or fear, or they are not on the right path, they are beating themselves up and beating their body up. I guess I am lucky that I lost a lot of weight and I figured out that my body is really an expression of me. Once I accepted my body the way it was, it was a huge awakening to me that there is this body, mind, and spirit connection. One of the things I remember as a kid was seeing Ella Fitzgerald and Sara Vaughn and seeing heavy set, big busted black women who owned their body and who could dance, and that made me cry because I was a fat little kid. I remember thinking they were okay with their body. I had a grandmother that called herself fat and sassy. Then I came to a point where I kept trying to lose weight, because I didn’t fit into the gay culture. Once I said, “I own my body,” boom—I lost almost 100 pounds. I think that shift has to happen, because as long as you are on this merry-go-round you really don’t own what you do. You are going to stay in this revolving door scenario.

VM: What are some of the techniques a person can do who is really going through a rough time in their life?
RT: I have had some people lately who were in anger management with the court and I have been lucky now to be certified to deal with them. They are in relationships that are dysfunctional, because they don’t have a high opinion of themselves. The key thing comes down to three things—self-love, passion for something you love, and forgiveness. If you examine those three things on a really deep level, you understand that you deserve better. Then you can really walk away from a job or relationship, not because you dislike the person or there’s conflict, but because they are growing beyond that situation.
As you evolve you have to trust the universe that the flow of prosperity, people, and things are going to happen to you in a positive way when you own it.

VM: Why, in your opinion, do you believe there is suffering in our lifetime?
RT: I think there is so much evidence in history that suffering leads to huge awakenings. I am now taking a course about Ernest Holmes, Emma Mae Hopkins, Thomas Trower, and Emerson, and almost all of them had this huge catastrophe in their life. And somehow it takes that in order to wake up. In that you either weren’t following your life’s purpose or you need to own your own body, life, and spirit, and once you find that path that resonates with where you are supposed to be going, I think then a lot of that misery falls away.
I think that in many ways the recession is good for us. I think there are too many people that have used their house as an ATM and spent way over what they should have been spending and now they are having to ask: Do I need that? Can I have a simpler life? When they ‘own’ a simpler life, it isn’t so painful to say, I don’t need that 4,000 square foot house. In my own life, I had a really bad car accident two and a half years ago and I moved from owning property for 26 years to renting an apartment in Hillcrest and I have never been happier.

VM: What does modern living mean to you?
RT: Modern living means intuition, being able to look at people and events as an observer and not let them get plugged in. I think the more I become intuitive and spiritual, and the more I can become grounded, I see people, places, and things as just events, as an observer. And I can move away from that and live my life simply, in a way that improves relationships and love among people on the planet and know that everything will work out. Emma Mae Hopkins, has, her favorite phrase which is, “It’s good and all good.” Sometimes it’s hard to see that or think of that, but the more I can move away and say, it’s all happening for a reason, and maybe it’s bigger than I can figure out.

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